Changing for Others or yourself?

I know it might sound cliched but I caught up with an acquaintance I made a month ago, in my high school’s washroom and we had a nice chat but when we started checking if we looked okay in the mirror of the washroom, I saw a frown forming on her face and upon asking, I got the response “Why can I never look good?!” Anyone at a distance could see it made her upset but she didn’t say it loud enough for everyone to hear. Infact I also wasn’t supposed to hear that but I did and then I started feeling pity for the poor girl. I mean she is just so talented and so remarkable and even has good friends yet she felt like she’s different from us. I was a mere acquaintance.

It’s not just that girl, most girls and even boys feel overly conscious about themselves. They think, the way they look defines them and their personalities. What they don’t know is that there is no definition of Beautiful. The definition of Beautiful keeps changing according to change in People’s thoughts and ideas. How can we be upset about something that’s not stable. It’s almost unnecessary to even think about it. But we do think about it and often we know that we are better in other ways but we let jealousy get the best of us. Just because we aren’t like all those models does not mean that we are utterly useless. We need to realize that how we look is not determined by anyone else, it’s determined by us. Just like we ignore people when they stop us from doing something we love, in the same way we have to stop listening to people when they comment us on our looks.

Most people feel insecure of not finding the perfect partner but hey! If you’re willing to change yourself for another man, then that’s not what you should be proud of. You don’t need to change yourselves for anyone, if ever you feel like you need to change Yousef then do it for only for yourself, not for anyone else.

Thank you!

14 Comments Add yours

  1. Meghna says:

    Nicely written ..

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Accidental Blogger says:

    Wow ! Beautifully written .
    You’ve mature & pure thinking ❤
    Keep writing

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Arushi says:

      Thanks there!

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Well written 👍👍

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Arushi says:

      Thanks for the nomination


  4. Your blogs never fail to motivate me.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Arushi says:

      Thank you


  5. Chiru says:

    That’s inspiring to many of the fellow bloggers.. Keep writing such post.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Arushi says:

      Thanks for encouraging me!

      Liked by 1 person

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